"Some people are quite rude to women they meet socially these days, asking them right off “What do you do?” as if they wouldn’t be worth talking to unless they had professional affiliations. Others are quite rude by not asking women what they do, as if to assume that they wouldn’t be doing anything professionally. Social life is so much more interesting now than it was when there was only one way for a gentleman to insult a lady. Miss Manners herself has managed to alienate various gentlemen who have asked her, “Do you work?” or “Do you still work?” or “Do you work full time?” simply by replying to each, “Oh, yes; do you?” Gentlemen are so touchy."
– Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, Judith Martin, published 1982. The origin of “gentlemen are so touchy.”